Adult victims of bullying very rarely tell their friends and colleagues about their teenage experiences. It primarily affects the irresponsible attitude of schoolchildren and staff towards the phenomenon and motivates teenagers to continue attacks. Usually, bullying is a common problem, and only the ratio of verbal harassment to physical harm varies from school to school. However, regardless of whether the student endures the boycott in silence or suffers physically, his psyche is deformed, and bullies acquire hidden trauma.
A common belief is that bullying in school can build the character of young people. It can be developed in patriarchal societies where strength is valued. Such a statement does not tolerate criticism since bullying cannot positively affect personality formation (11 Facts about Bullying). Usually, a brutal temper is already formed in people with clear views and character traits. Such people can cope with attacks, aggression, or difficulties of circumstances. The bullying experienced at school, ridicule, and open mockery, even if they seem to nurture strength in a person, such power is associated with auto-aggression. Later, such people can become embittered and show passive aggression, forbidding themselves to be angry openly. The flip side is the desire for fame and respect, that is, narcissism. In adulthood, such people tirelessly demand the praise of others and cannot build healthy relationships with the environment.
Despite being a force when ridiculed and mocked, bullies receive a hidden injury rarely suspected. Such trauma can be expressed in irritability, excessive capriciousness, and the inability to cooperate with people to achieve goals. Growing up, such people realize that they cannot solve problems in the usual way. Intimidation and threats will not do; even if they try, they will be shamed. It is usually hard for bullies to admit their mistakes since almost no one insists on them while growing up. Their mistakes were ignored in school, but when it comes to conflict in adulthood and mindfulness in problem-solving is needed, they react without fundamental social awareness and sensitivity (Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs). It is often difficult for such people to say goodbye to people and break off relations with them since they cannot forgive them and cannot be exposed to a blow. The bully’s ego is a bleeding wound that is forbidden to be touched by others. Often people forget about this, and the bullies are unaware of the consequences of their temporary social role.
However, some believe that bullying is not a problem with life-changing outcomes. It remains in school memories as a school event, and it is not beneficial for anyone to refer to them often. Both bullies and victims enter adulthood, where people generally have a low tolerance for violence, so they do not have to worry about repeating teenage issues. Teenagers need support from relatives and some teachers, but not cooperative help from around the world. Bullying, in some people’s perception, remains one of the first cases of problem-solving. People who overcome bullying or have memories of bullying become successful and empathetic leaders. Former bullies know how to defend their boundaries, are picky in communication, and value relatives and close friends. Bullying, therefore, is nothing more than a temporary joint communication case, not stretched out for many years. It is a shared experience and remembrance from which communication and relationship-building lessons can be quickly learned.
Modern studies believe bullying is not a means of forming a robust and hardened personality, ready to endure the hardships of fate. Victims of bullying have unresolved self-esteem issues and experience difficulty building relationships with people. Former bullies are not reserved and do not know how to resolve conflicts; their ways of communicating are usually inappropriate in a group of mature people. Although some people consider bullying to be nothing more than a temporary case and requires adolescents to solve problems, bullying has only a negative impact on personality formation.
Works Cited
Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs (ASPA). “Facts about Bullying.” StopBullying.gov, Web.
“11 Facts about Bullying.” DoSomething.org, 2020, Web.