Relationships begin to form at birth when a child builds a relationship with the mother and father, or the caretaker, and humans continue to engage in building relationships all through their life. These relationships are of different kinds and are emotional, romantic, friendly, marital, or with colleagues, peers, or co-workers. While most relationships take time and effort to build trust, it takes no time to destroy relationships. This paper aims to analyze the relationships which occur between parents and child and how they can be ruined by either the inability of the parent to understand their child’s point of view or the inability of the child to understand the loving care and effort which parents put in, to raise their children.
When children are born, parents are usually delighted. Great care and attention are given to the newborn child especially by the mother. Mothers are known for their sincerity and dedication in raising their children and put in a great deal of effort and hard work to bring their children. However, when children grow up and begin to have their own social lives, they forget the effort and love which their parents, especially their mother have put in to raise them. With new friends and social life, children begin to experience joy and comfort in the company of friends and begin to take their parents for granted. They change their lifestyles and forget the values and morals which they have been brought up with. This sets the stage for the destruction of parental and family relationships.
Children begin to give priority to their friends and society, rather than those beings who have given them all they needed after sacrificing a great deal. Problems become more severe when children lose respect for their parents and begin to argue with them, demanding freedom to behave and act in ways that are not considered normal by their parents, for instance, late-night parties, taking drugs, and sometimes not doing well academically at school. When problems become very severe there is a huge dent in the relationships between the parents and the child and the child begins to drift further away. It should be noted that the child is not entirely at fault here for ruining the relationship. Very often, parents too behave in inconsiderate ways and forget that their children are grown up and need to be dealt with affection, care, and understanding, rather than with a lack of sensitivity.
Adolescence is a difficult time for many children which leads them to become rebellious and causes many changes in their behaviors. This is due to the hormonal changes which occur in children and they have to deal with a great many pressures, emotional, social, and physical, which is why parents need to understand that their children are in the delicate years of their lives and need to be dealt with love, care, and sensitivity.
Thus it is apparent that failure to understand one another aggravates relationships and creates a battleground between the child and parents. It is said that even very healthy and strong relationships, fail the test of time and are ruined because of the inability of individuals to respect and care for feelings and emotions. Relationships take a long time to build and strengthen, sometimes many years. They should therefore be cherished and looked after by caring for the other person’s views and emotions so that that there is love and respect in relationships and they are not ruined due to insensitivity and lack of respect.