Life is an uphill task, which has many confrontations. Out of daily endeavors, challenges invade people, leaving them with grieve. For example, sudden illness, loss of a loved one, loss of a job, termination of contracts, and loss of mobility leave people grieved. Sudden changes in people’s life cause serious pain and suffering.
Interestingly, grieve is not a disease but a psychological trauma whose symptoms include stress, change of behavior, and sometimes tiredness. Depending on social and cultural backgrounds, every person grieves differently. There are people who experience numbness and shock at the beginning of challenges. Later on, the numbness and the shock develop into a series of strange thoughts and feelings.
Sometimes, skepticism, perplexity, and conjecture accompany the strange feelings and thoughts. The result is that; these happenings leave people depressed, angered, terrified, nervous, short-tempered and sometimes guilty. Every human being at one point in life must experience sudden challenges like sorrow, trouncing or disenchantment that sire grieve.
It is never easy to control such challenges because; they are sudden and natural. Perhaps this is the reason why grieved people cry a lot, feel weak, feel sleepless, lose appetite, study problems among students and pupils, and blame others for the challenges they are undergoing. It can take a quite long time for people to, overcome grieves, maybe longer than expected.
This is because; there are no fast ways of fixing grieve although, grieved persons can gradually work their way towards normalcy. Certain psychological and health practices can see grieve symptoms lessen proportionately with time. (Hodgson, 2008, Para. 1-7).
Causes of Grieve
A person can experience grieve due to the death of a friend or family member. This is because the love between no longer exists. The sudden cut of love-separation between loved ones causes agony and pain not easy to heal. These agonies causes by separation amounts to grieve, as love is not an entity that diminishes hastily. Nevertheless, as people continue to mourn for days and even months, they must come into the realization that challenges exist and it is, therefore, necessary to face reality.
Some situations like saying goodbye to somebody you love can be difficult, and harden regaining. All the same, facing reality will arouse the ability to carry on. Some people, especially female persons, find it a tall order to restore their lives after grieve simply because they have misconceptions about grieve. Others have perceptions that, if a person continues in grieve, it will eventually bowl the person indefinitely. (Ernst, Isadora & Sabrina, 2008, p. 1).
Courage to Grieve
According to research carried by psychologists and academicians, the mourning period is advantageous to human beings. It helps people master who they are through examining life. After a short or long period of mourning, people find a new balance in life triggered by past grieve symptoms. All experiences that grieved people undergo during mourning creates new challenges contrary to sudden life challenges; hence; learn a new process. It is very true when people say they learned from experience.
This is because; experiences create the meaning and purpose of life. For example, it is never easy to measure the pain caused by the death of a loved one unless one experiences it. Natural calamities like earthquakes, floods, and thunderstorms can cause death or destruction of property, and without seeing them happen, people cannot learn any lesson.
In essence, going through challenging times prepares individuals on how they will gather the courage to deal with grieve. The total completion of grieve happens when grieved people let the feelings off and cut the deep connection they had with the deceased. (Ernst, Isadora & Sabrina, 2008, pp. 2-5).
Take, for example, a person who has lost home and property through fire. Some people can run way or wonder of the incident. The truth is, the person is sad and feels pain for losing such properties. However, in order for this person to go on with normal life, grieve is necessary, as it will impart new perceptions and avenues.
A good example is the assassination of President Kennedy of the United States. Repeatedly, grieved the loss of their President, watched images of his life, read the circumstances surrounding the assassination and watched his burial ceremony. With time, they realized how repetition and remembrance (grieving processes) hasten the completion of the mourning process. It is very incredible to reckon how people grieve and later recover. Conceivably, this happens due to the marvelous human resilience. (Tatelbaum, 1993, pp. 8-43).
Overcoming grieve is not an easy task, as it requires more time and attention. However, if people decide to face the grieving process candidly and honestly, the process can reach completion over a short period. Since grieving is natural and not easy to prevent, people must learn how to express and do away with feelings caused by Grieve. Additionally, any further acceptance and toleration of stressful and painful feelings help to overcome grieve. Nonetheless, this cannot happen without courage.
The courage to face life reality through sudden challenges, which cause pain, creates channels of dealing with grieve. In societies where open expression of emotions is an abomination, the courage to grieve becomes relevant. Grieve takes time to dissolve. Therefore, people ought to be enthusiastic to face anger, twinge, and distress in order to recover. The courage to face grieve is paramount to a scenario where people face sudden challenges gallantly.
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Hodgson, H. (2008). Grief Recovery – You Have to Keep Going. Web.
Tatelbaum, J. (1993). The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery and Recovery Through Grief. New York: HarperCollins.