Are women better parents than men? Many people believe that women make better parents than men and that is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies. Others claim that men are just as good as women at parenting. What is your position?
Prewriting for a thesis
I myself have been a single parent to my two daughters and a son most of the time. The father of my first daughter left me with the child as he realized that we were not matured enough to be parents. After a series of abuses and threats, I left my ex – husband with my children while I was pregnant with my youngest daughter. I had to raise my three children all by myself without any support.
My youngest daughter won a prize in a contest while she was in her fourth grade by writing a poem with the help of her siblings which says:
My mom is best
Gives me love than rest
She always has a smile
And ……………..
The poem she wrote literally meant that “Mom you have also been my dad.”
Reasons supporting the point:
- Women have an internal instinct for maternity.
- Women are more patient and tending to the needs of the kids.
- After being a mother, most women have kids as their most important priority.
- A woman seldom abandons her children, while fathers don’t mind moving out.
Opposing view points:
- There are a lot of men who are successful single parents.
Due to certain situations like substance abuse or illicit activities or death of the mother, some men are forced to take care of their children without a female partner. Over the time, by tending to the needs of the kids, men learn to do parenting effectively.
- Fathers have important role in bringing up children.
A father’s role in the upbringing of the children is important as it fulfills the presence of both parents in a child’s life. Children who have grown up with both parents show more confidence in themselves and are more successful in life.
In general the role of a mother in a kid’s life is important. It is from the mother that the child learns the first step of life. Although fathers do have a role in raising children its more often confined to supplying the financial need of the family and taking decisions.
Thesis
Women make better parents as they have the congenital maternal instincts that make them to give the best care to their children.
Plan of Argument
- Once a woman becomes a mother, her child becomes the most important priority of her life.
- Women are more patient and they patiently tend to all the needs of her child right from the nursing days.
- A woman seldom abandons her children, while fathers move out.
Support
Once a woman becomes a mother, her child becomes the most important priority of her life.
According to my experience my children are my first priority. When my ex husband pulled a gun at my son, the first thing I did was to leave with my children. No women can ever forgive harming her child. There are women around the world who have kept aside their career goals just to be with their children. Many women stop going for jobs after child birth through the period of nursing until the child is old enough to be left with someone else. An opposing statement to this would be that, in families where the women are more employable, the men becomes stay – at – home parents rather than women and takes good care of their children. But even in such families the mothers play a big role in the children’s life. Women take care of their children in the initial months of childbirth and starts working only if the financial position is so bad that she is forced to work.
Women are more patient and they patiently tend to all the needs of her child right from the nursing days.
When a child is born the responsibilities of a woman doubles. She must learn to do a lot of new tasks like feeding the child, changing nappies etc and have sleepless nights tending to their needs. The patience of a woman is clearly revealed in these activities. Even when the child grows up, it is the mother who is always with them to hear their need.Women are basically raised up to be good mothers. As girls it is they who see and learn raising children from their mothers. Men as boys will be away more often. This upbringing as girls makes women more ready for being a mother. It is a proven fact that women manage the family much better than men.
The opposing theory is that women are more prone to mood swings and depression and are more stressed while raising a child.
Being a mother is the most pleasurable experience in a woman’s life. Women never become depressed with parenting. Only external factors like a demanding career, flaws in relationship with the life partner, lack of support from other family members etc can make them depressed.
A woman seldom abandons her children, while fathers move out.
After my first daughter was born, her father decided that we were not old enough to become parents. I was left alone with my daughter. As a young mother I have never felt like abandoning my children even when I had to raise three children, two of them girls, all my own. The relationship between a mother and her child starts right from the time of pregnancy. The mother thus becomes more attached to the child than the father. The growing number of single mothers in the world is the most reasonable evidence for this. The opposition to this is that there are mothers who abandon their children and are brought up their fathers. There are cases of women who abandon children, but only under extreme circumstances like substances abuse other illicit activities or if the child is illegitimate. Under such conditions the father take up the parenting role or the child becomes an orphan.
Conclusion
Women make better parents and they have greater role in bringing up the children in most societies. The father’s role in a family is mostly in providing moral and financial support to the family. Women are born with an internal maternity instinct. Mothers give primary importance to their kinds. Women are more patient in dealing with the kids. Women observe and learn more from their mothers on parenting and cultivate the values of life in her children. The relationship between a mother and a child starts from the womb of the mother. A mother seldom abandons her child. Although fathers play an important role in the complete upbringing of a child, mothers are superior parents than fathers.